"Who are you?"

I received a message on my mobile “Feel I am not capable of taking any responsibility and shouldn't get insulted because failed to fulfill that responsibility.”

Don’t know how we are? After we do something, we think I did that”. After we win we think “I won that”. After finishing our responsibility we think “I took that responsibility” and when we lose we always think “I lost it”. There’s always an “I” before anything. Why I did something doesn’t matter; who arranged the race which I won, really doesn’t make any sense; who gave that responsibility which I finished, is meaningless, what matters more is “it was me who made it”. I did something because someone asked me to do that; I won the race because one had faith who asked me to participate in the race; someone trusted me and gave me the responsibility and so I made that possible. But no, “if everything was done by others then was I just source which was utilized to complete something and that means the worth of mine is less”. Everyone is in the race to come in the top or look above everyone. I know there is no end of this race and may be one wins all the races but will fail in one and that is “definite”. What do you call this? That is “Ego”. “I” means ego. If you remove “I” then there is no “ego”.

Ask this question to yourself “Who are you?” take some time and try to get answer. Everyone has one or more answers of this question. Close your eyes and ask this question within yourself “Who am I?” I did that and I asked myself “Who are you Vishal?” I kept my eyes closed and asked this question many times and every time I asked this, I had some new answers. You too will get some answers and the answers will “You will know your name”, you will know where you work or study or anything you are doing in current, you will get some answers like “I am his son or daughter” “I am dad or husband or wife or sister or brother” and there will be many more answers. You may get some answers like “I won” or “I failed”, may be “I am one who did something” or “I am the one who couldn’t do anything”. Every time you ask this question to yourself, you will get some new answers. Practice it because that will make you realize “Who you are?”

Give sometime to yourself, every time you ask this question to yourself that “Who you are?” Make your brain think and go deep inside you, let that go in deep thought, deeper and more deeper. Every time you do that you will remember some new faces or some new acts you did in the past. In every answer, it will not be you only there will always be one or more person whom you remember before you get an answer, which your identity is not just because of you, it’s because of someone else. And this truth may not be acceptable but that is a truth.

My name is “Vishal” because someone calls me with that name and someone gave me that name, it was never me who named me “Vishal”. I am brother because there are sisters and brothers I have. I am a friend because there are others who are there as my friend. I am colleague because there is someone else’ company where I work, and there are people along with whom I work. If I am running a business then I am a businessman because there are people as customer.

It simply means, whatever I am it is because there is one or more around me. If they are not there then I might lose my existence. I exist because there are people between whom I am. My existence is because they exist.

I think I am able to convey my message to my friend that “it was never you who took that responsibility, it was someone else who gave that responsibility. It was never you who did something for one instead it was one who trusted you that you will do this for him. It was never you who got respect, it was someone who gave you respect and in the same, if

you are insulted if someone insults you, if one not then you are never got insulted.”

“Your value is not because of you, your value is because one gives you value.”



(Vishal Singh)