I received a message on my mobile “Feel I am not capable of taking any responsibility and shouldn't get insulted because failed to fulfill that responsibility.”
Don’t know how we are? After we do something, we think I did that”. After we win we think “I won that”. After finishing our responsibility we think “I took that responsibility” and when we lose we always think “I lost it”. There’s always an “I” before anything. Why I did something doesn’t matter; who arranged the race which I won, really doesn’t make any sense; who gave that responsibility which I finished, is meaningless, what matters more is “it was me who made it”. I did something because someone asked me to do that; I won the race because one had faith who asked me to participate in the race; someone trusted me and gave me the responsibility and so I made that possible. But no, “if everything was done by others then was I just source which was utilized to complete something and that means the worth of mine is less”. Everyone is in the race to come in the top or look above everyone. I know there is no end of this race and may be one wins all the races but will fail in one and that is “definite”. What do you call this? That is “Ego”. “I” means ego. If you remove “I” then there is no “ego”.
Ask this question to yourself “Who are you?” take some time and try to get answer. Everyone has one or more answers of this question. Close your eyes and ask this question within yourself “Who am I?” I did that and I asked myself “Who are you Vishal?” I kept my eyes closed and asked this question many times and every time I asked this, I had some new answers. You too will get some answers and the answers will “You will know your name”, you will know where you work or study or anything you are doing in current, you will get some answers like “I am his son or daughter” “I am dad or husband or wife or sister or brother” and there will be many more answers. You may get some answers like “I won” or “I failed”, may be “I am one who did something” or “I am the one who couldn’t do anything”. Every time you ask this question to yourself, you will get some new answers. Practice it because that will make you realize “Who you are?”
Give sometime to yourself, every time you ask this question to yourself that “Who you are?” Make your brain think and go deep inside you, let that go in deep thought, deeper and more deeper. Every time you do that you will remember some new faces or some new acts you did in the past. In every answer, it will not be you only there will always be one or more person whom you remember before you get an answer, which your identity is not just because of you, it’s because of someone else. And this truth may not be acceptable but that is a truth.
My name is “Vishal” because someone calls me with that name and someone gave me that name, it was never me who named me “Vishal”. I am brother because there are sisters and brothers I have. I am a friend because there are others who are there as my friend. I am colleague because there is someone else’ company where I work, and there are people along with whom I work. If I am running a business then I am a businessman because there are people as customer.
It simply means, whatever I am it is because there is one or more around me. If they are not there then I might lose my existence. I exist because there are people between whom I am. My existence is because they exist.
I think I am able to convey my message to my friend that “it was never you who took that responsibility, it was someone else who gave that responsibility. It was never you who did something for one instead it was one who trusted you that you will do this for him. It was never you who got respect, it was someone who gave you respect and in the same, if
you are insulted if someone insults you, if one not then you are never got insulted.”
“Your value is not because of you, your value is because one gives you value.”
(Vishal Singh)
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
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Monday, May 10, 2010
Past + Present + Furute = Life (Part II)
If you have not read my Part I of this thread please read that first.
You might not have heard about a mosque in Ujjain in state of Madhya Pradesh in India, which doesn’t have a base and is basically famous for its strong structure. The mosque was built by Mughal in 16th century. That mosque is built without having a base and known as “Bina Neev ki Masjid”. You may find sculpture of that not the mosque now. You must be thinking that, why I am talking about this here. Like everyone says, our past is our base on which our present or future is dependent. Now, tell me that. “Wasn’t there any present or future of that mosque? Was that architect of that mosque, a fool who constructed that?” No. a day we live, becomes our past from present and everyday we add a brick to build our life like the architect who builds buildings. It’s all about we, how we construct, how we design, what shape we give to our life. There are so many examples, which I can give you here, whose life suddenly turned from a disaster to an example. Remember Kalidasa, who was famous for his foolishness, but the day he realized about him, it changed his life. He became greatest poet of Sanskrit Language. Think of that “how a fool can become an example”.
Tulsidas, a great poet and the author of “Ramacharitamanasa”, whose life got changed from disaster to an example. Let me tell you the story: ‘Tulsidas was passionately attached to his wife. He could not bear even a day’s separation from her. One day his wife went to her father’s house without informing her husband. Tulsidas stealthily went to see her at night at his father-in-law’s house. This produced a sense of shame in Buddhimati, his wife. She said to Tulsidas, "My body is but a network of flesh and bones. If you would develop for Lord Rama even half the love that you have for my filthy body, you would certainly cross the ocean of Samsara and attain immortality and eternal bliss". These words pierced the heart of Tulsidas like an arrow. And those few words changed his entire life.
There are so many examples I can give you here. I am giving these examples to tell you that, if your past has not been good it doesn’t mean you should stop doing extreme things, you can and you should. Again I am saying that there are so many examples I can give you here. Let’s take another example. You might not have heard the name of German Philosopher Eckhart Tolle, who didn’t even attended school, who did not have any primary education. Whatever he studied, he studied at home only. You might not believe that he has “suicidal depression” for almost ten years and he also tried to commit suicide many times but “one night” changed his life. In his words “I couldn’t live with myself any longer. And in this, a question arose without an answer: who is the ‘I’ that cannot live with the self? What is the self? I felt drawn into a void. I didn’t know at the time that, what really happened was the mind-made self, with its heaviness, its problems, that lives between the unsatisfying past and the fearful future, collapsed. It dissolved. The next morning I woke up and everything was so peaceful. The peace was there because there was no self. Just a sense of presence or ‘being-ness’ just observing and watching”.
All these examples which I am giving here is just to tell you that, everyday which you are living or is in yours words “future” will become your past one day but don’t just let your present go out of your hands, don’t just let your present go like your passed day, don’t just let your present become a regretful past. Think of that architect who has been asked to built mosque without a base; think of Kalidasa and Tulisdaas, what changed their life; think of Ekhart Tolle who wanted to commit suicide and now is a teacher who teaches everyone ‘what does life means?’ What was that, which changed the old concepts of architecting, what changed a common person to a great author or writers, and what changed a person from committing suicide to become a teacher and a teacher who teaches the lesson of “Life”? There was no miracle happened with them, which changed their life, the only thing happened is, they realized “What they are? What they can do? What is life? And what is their life’s purpose?” They didn’t even think of their past, they just started living in their present and they lived every second of it. “They stopped counting of seconds they lived; they started counting of lives they lived in every second.” They learned lessons from their past and they made sure that they will not do any single mistake now, and that changed their entire life. But yes, mistakes are bound to happen, but those mistakes were another lesson to learn from and that made them from a common person to an example to the world, I must call it “An Example of Life”. I’ll again say “Do not hesitate to do mistakes, do not worry of doing mistakes and do not have fear of doing mistakes because you will do mistakes if starting “doing”, you can only avoid mistakes when you stop doing things”. Think of that architect who built the mosque, if he would have had fear, he wouldn’t have build that ‘architectural example’; if he would have a fear that the building may collapse, he wouldn’t have started that but he only had one thing in his mind “he will do it”, “he will make it” and “he will create a new example for sure”.
Like these architects or constructers who design or build huge building, we design or shape and construct our life. They use different building materials to build a building, and so we; we use our confidence, determination, willingness, experiences and past lessons and we construct our life. Don’t be unhappy with whatever you have, or whatever you not have because you still have your life to change the things, to change your life. And remember that, we cannot do things in future, we can only do things in our present, just start living your present and doing things to change yourself, to change your life, to make yourself better, although it doesn’t has an end because it only ends with you, with your life.
To be continued…
Copy Right © Vishal Singh
You might not have heard about a mosque in Ujjain in state of Madhya Pradesh in India, which doesn’t have a base and is basically famous for its strong structure. The mosque was built by Mughal in 16th century. That mosque is built without having a base and known as “Bina Neev ki Masjid”. You may find sculpture of that not the mosque now. You must be thinking that, why I am talking about this here. Like everyone says, our past is our base on which our present or future is dependent. Now, tell me that. “Wasn’t there any present or future of that mosque? Was that architect of that mosque, a fool who constructed that?” No. a day we live, becomes our past from present and everyday we add a brick to build our life like the architect who builds buildings. It’s all about we, how we construct, how we design, what shape we give to our life. There are so many examples, which I can give you here, whose life suddenly turned from a disaster to an example. Remember Kalidasa, who was famous for his foolishness, but the day he realized about him, it changed his life. He became greatest poet of Sanskrit Language. Think of that “how a fool can become an example”.
Tulsidas, a great poet and the author of “Ramacharitamanasa”, whose life got changed from disaster to an example. Let me tell you the story: ‘Tulsidas was passionately attached to his wife. He could not bear even a day’s separation from her. One day his wife went to her father’s house without informing her husband. Tulsidas stealthily went to see her at night at his father-in-law’s house. This produced a sense of shame in Buddhimati, his wife. She said to Tulsidas, "My body is but a network of flesh and bones. If you would develop for Lord Rama even half the love that you have for my filthy body, you would certainly cross the ocean of Samsara and attain immortality and eternal bliss". These words pierced the heart of Tulsidas like an arrow. And those few words changed his entire life.
There are so many examples I can give you here. I am giving these examples to tell you that, if your past has not been good it doesn’t mean you should stop doing extreme things, you can and you should. Again I am saying that there are so many examples I can give you here. Let’s take another example. You might not have heard the name of German Philosopher Eckhart Tolle, who didn’t even attended school, who did not have any primary education. Whatever he studied, he studied at home only. You might not believe that he has “suicidal depression” for almost ten years and he also tried to commit suicide many times but “one night” changed his life. In his words “I couldn’t live with myself any longer. And in this, a question arose without an answer: who is the ‘I’ that cannot live with the self? What is the self? I felt drawn into a void. I didn’t know at the time that, what really happened was the mind-made self, with its heaviness, its problems, that lives between the unsatisfying past and the fearful future, collapsed. It dissolved. The next morning I woke up and everything was so peaceful. The peace was there because there was no self. Just a sense of presence or ‘being-ness’ just observing and watching”.
All these examples which I am giving here is just to tell you that, everyday which you are living or is in yours words “future” will become your past one day but don’t just let your present go out of your hands, don’t just let your present go like your passed day, don’t just let your present become a regretful past. Think of that architect who has been asked to built mosque without a base; think of Kalidasa and Tulisdaas, what changed their life; think of Ekhart Tolle who wanted to commit suicide and now is a teacher who teaches everyone ‘what does life means?’ What was that, which changed the old concepts of architecting, what changed a common person to a great author or writers, and what changed a person from committing suicide to become a teacher and a teacher who teaches the lesson of “Life”? There was no miracle happened with them, which changed their life, the only thing happened is, they realized “What they are? What they can do? What is life? And what is their life’s purpose?” They didn’t even think of their past, they just started living in their present and they lived every second of it. “They stopped counting of seconds they lived; they started counting of lives they lived in every second.” They learned lessons from their past and they made sure that they will not do any single mistake now, and that changed their entire life. But yes, mistakes are bound to happen, but those mistakes were another lesson to learn from and that made them from a common person to an example to the world, I must call it “An Example of Life”. I’ll again say “Do not hesitate to do mistakes, do not worry of doing mistakes and do not have fear of doing mistakes because you will do mistakes if starting “doing”, you can only avoid mistakes when you stop doing things”. Think of that architect who built the mosque, if he would have had fear, he wouldn’t have build that ‘architectural example’; if he would have a fear that the building may collapse, he wouldn’t have started that but he only had one thing in his mind “he will do it”, “he will make it” and “he will create a new example for sure”.
Like these architects or constructers who design or build huge building, we design or shape and construct our life. They use different building materials to build a building, and so we; we use our confidence, determination, willingness, experiences and past lessons and we construct our life. Don’t be unhappy with whatever you have, or whatever you not have because you still have your life to change the things, to change your life. And remember that, we cannot do things in future, we can only do things in our present, just start living your present and doing things to change yourself, to change your life, to make yourself better, although it doesn’t has an end because it only ends with you, with your life.
To be continued…
Copy Right © Vishal Singh
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Past + Present + Future = Life
It might sound weird but that’s a fact. Correct me if I am wrong…
Past:- Don’t know why, people always regret their past? I have seen many people living their life fullest, but whenever we ask about the days passed, they always share their bad experiences, may be there are only two or three bad experiences rest of his/her life have been fantastic but even then you will always get to listen about bad experiences. I could never understand this why? I must write here a big “WHY?” I think we human being has a very sort memory for storing good experiences but we have big storage of bad experiences and worst part is that, those bad experiences doesn’t get time to recall.
In my point of view, our past was our real teacher. The teacher who taught lessons of life, the teacher who made us a person like whatever we are right now, the teacher took us up to here where we are right now. But we always regret our past. Books might have taught us lesson about science, math, history etc etc… but tell me that “who taught us lesson about what is right and what is wrong; what is good or what is bad; difference between human and inhuman behaviors and so many things?” Was that our schools? Was that our books? No, we saw things happening around us and we learned so many lessons from our surrounding without attending any class or lecture, but still we regret our past. Why?
We might have done mistakes but remember the words of great scientist Thomas Edition who failed around 10,000 times in his experiment of ‘light’ but he succeeded one day; “My thousands of experiments taught what should not I do, and in other words they taught me what should I do next.” Remember about Abraham Lincoln who failed in business at the age of 21; was defeated in a legislative race at age 22; failed again in business at age 24; overcame the death of his sweetheart at age 26; had a nervous breakdown at age 27; lost a congressional race at age 34; lost a senatorial race at age 45; failed in an effort to become vice-president at age 47; lost a senatorial race at age 49; and was elected president of the United States at age 52. (Abraham Lincoln’s data is taking from book “You can win” by Shiv Khera)
“Mistakes”, again they are our teachers. Every living on this planet earth is born to do mistakes but one should not repeat the same because one who repeats its mistake is basically a fool or a definite looser. Ask yourself “Did you ever do a mistake intentionally or it just happened unknowingly?” Never regret your mistake because that mistake only turned your life into whatever it is right now. I must say this here “Ghar me andhera roshani band karne se nahi hota, ghar me andhera aankhein band karne se hota ha, aankhein bad kar lo tho din me damakta sooraj bhi andhere me doob jaye (switching off lights doesn’t create darkness, instead closing your eyes is the real source or reason)”
Present:- We only do things which we learned from our past. We too try new things but that turns into some new mistakes, may be not always but it does happen. We actually act on things, words, feeling, thoughts, imaginations… in present. And in present “we do things or I can say whatever things we do is basically our Present.”
Future:- Don’t know, I might not have answer for this word “Future”. Neither it’s our imagination nor the real truth because no one knows what will happen next. It’s very unpredictable, may be once or twice we can predict it but that doesn’t happen always. Somewhere, I find that, the philosophy written in Bhagavad Geeta is related to this also; “Karm kiye ja par fal ki chinta mat kar (Acting, or doing one's duties in life as per his/her dharma, or duty, without concern of results)”
Don’t know, if I am right or wrong but what I feel is somewhere I find that “Karma (Acting or Doing)” is our present and “Fal (results)” is our future. Remember this, its not we who will get the results of what we are doing right now but definitely the results will come and someone will get that for sure, it may not be the same person who did that, that can be anyone else but the result is definite.
Ask this to yourself “whatever you are doing is that for yourself only. Don’t you think of others, may be your loved ones?” May be one is selfish but at the same time he/he is selfless because he/she knows that whatever he/she is doing will result into. We all know, may be not everyone but most of us have a bank account and that is “Saving bank account”, what is that for? We are in job and we are paid for that, and so we are earning and this ‘earning’ is our present and keeping that in to “saving bank account” is our future. Now these days, this saving bank account has changed into ‘insurance policies’. Don’t you have a policy? If yes, then for what and for whom? Is that for yourself only?
Life, yes life is like a gardener, who ploughed his field, put seeds, fertilizers and water; that was all our past, now that seed is changed into a plant and we are nourishing that and keeping that safe, not for ourselves because if I would have been thinking of myself only, I would rather have preferred to buy fruits from market, I would not have preferred to put such a effort to get the fruits but we still do that; we do that for our future. Yes you heard that right “our future” not of “my future”. See, the history has this evidence that if the feeling of “my future” has come into one’s mind, he/she have always been disastrous for human being. Adolph Hitler, Nepolian Bonaparte, Paul Adams, Saddam Hussein, Osama Bin Laden are the examples who think of “my future”.
To be continued to Part II
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Past:- Don’t know why, people always regret their past? I have seen many people living their life fullest, but whenever we ask about the days passed, they always share their bad experiences, may be there are only two or three bad experiences rest of his/her life have been fantastic but even then you will always get to listen about bad experiences. I could never understand this why? I must write here a big “WHY?” I think we human being has a very sort memory for storing good experiences but we have big storage of bad experiences and worst part is that, those bad experiences doesn’t get time to recall.
In my point of view, our past was our real teacher. The teacher who taught lessons of life, the teacher who made us a person like whatever we are right now, the teacher took us up to here where we are right now. But we always regret our past. Books might have taught us lesson about science, math, history etc etc… but tell me that “who taught us lesson about what is right and what is wrong; what is good or what is bad; difference between human and inhuman behaviors and so many things?” Was that our schools? Was that our books? No, we saw things happening around us and we learned so many lessons from our surrounding without attending any class or lecture, but still we regret our past. Why?
We might have done mistakes but remember the words of great scientist Thomas Edition who failed around 10,000 times in his experiment of ‘light’ but he succeeded one day; “My thousands of experiments taught what should not I do, and in other words they taught me what should I do next.” Remember about Abraham Lincoln who failed in business at the age of 21; was defeated in a legislative race at age 22; failed again in business at age 24; overcame the death of his sweetheart at age 26; had a nervous breakdown at age 27; lost a congressional race at age 34; lost a senatorial race at age 45; failed in an effort to become vice-president at age 47; lost a senatorial race at age 49; and was elected president of the United States at age 52. (Abraham Lincoln’s data is taking from book “You can win” by Shiv Khera)
“Mistakes”, again they are our teachers. Every living on this planet earth is born to do mistakes but one should not repeat the same because one who repeats its mistake is basically a fool or a definite looser. Ask yourself “Did you ever do a mistake intentionally or it just happened unknowingly?” Never regret your mistake because that mistake only turned your life into whatever it is right now. I must say this here “Ghar me andhera roshani band karne se nahi hota, ghar me andhera aankhein band karne se hota ha, aankhein bad kar lo tho din me damakta sooraj bhi andhere me doob jaye (switching off lights doesn’t create darkness, instead closing your eyes is the real source or reason)”
Present:- We only do things which we learned from our past. We too try new things but that turns into some new mistakes, may be not always but it does happen. We actually act on things, words, feeling, thoughts, imaginations… in present. And in present “we do things or I can say whatever things we do is basically our Present.”
Future:- Don’t know, I might not have answer for this word “Future”. Neither it’s our imagination nor the real truth because no one knows what will happen next. It’s very unpredictable, may be once or twice we can predict it but that doesn’t happen always. Somewhere, I find that, the philosophy written in Bhagavad Geeta is related to this also; “Karm kiye ja par fal ki chinta mat kar (Acting, or doing one's duties in life as per his/her dharma, or duty, without concern of results)”
Don’t know, if I am right or wrong but what I feel is somewhere I find that “Karma (Acting or Doing)” is our present and “Fal (results)” is our future. Remember this, its not we who will get the results of what we are doing right now but definitely the results will come and someone will get that for sure, it may not be the same person who did that, that can be anyone else but the result is definite.
Ask this to yourself “whatever you are doing is that for yourself only. Don’t you think of others, may be your loved ones?” May be one is selfish but at the same time he/he is selfless because he/she knows that whatever he/she is doing will result into. We all know, may be not everyone but most of us have a bank account and that is “Saving bank account”, what is that for? We are in job and we are paid for that, and so we are earning and this ‘earning’ is our present and keeping that in to “saving bank account” is our future. Now these days, this saving bank account has changed into ‘insurance policies’. Don’t you have a policy? If yes, then for what and for whom? Is that for yourself only?
Life, yes life is like a gardener, who ploughed his field, put seeds, fertilizers and water; that was all our past, now that seed is changed into a plant and we are nourishing that and keeping that safe, not for ourselves because if I would have been thinking of myself only, I would rather have preferred to buy fruits from market, I would not have preferred to put such a effort to get the fruits but we still do that; we do that for our future. Yes you heard that right “our future” not of “my future”. See, the history has this evidence that if the feeling of “my future” has come into one’s mind, he/she have always been disastrous for human being. Adolph Hitler, Nepolian Bonaparte, Paul Adams, Saddam Hussein, Osama Bin Laden are the examples who think of “my future”.
To be continued to Part II
Copy Right © Vishal Singh
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